|Posted by Nicole Jocleen on July 20, 2015 at 5:50 PM||comments (0)|
This list is not in order of sexiness, but each artist entrance into the hip hop industry.
1. LL Cool J
2. Special Ed
3. Q Tip
5. Snoop Doggy Dogg
6. Sticky Fingaz
10. Mr. Cheeks
11. Kane and Abel
14. Mos Def
16. Memphis Bleek
Now ladies I know there are some fellas that I did not mention, that probably should have been mentioned. Keep in mind I decided on only 20. Now if it’s hard for me to narrow down 20 sexy men in Hip Hop, than hopefully Hip Hop enthusiast realize how ridiculous you sound when you can easily rattle off the 5 greatest rappers of all time. You are insulting the intelligence of Hip Hop when you do that. Why? There are way too many artists that have come through the game for you to narrow it down to 5. I could understand 5 a decade but 5 overall…in the entire existence…that’s just mean. Is it fair to compare Rakim's era of Hip Hop to Drake's? Even People Magazine realizes when celebrating the most beautiful people that the list has to be redone every year.
|Posted by Nicole Jocleen on February 5, 2015 at 5:40 PM||comments (0)|
Natural hair is not new. I know at times it’s hard to comprehend the ideal that we were actually born this way. But…we were. There have been moments over the years where some women have dared to sport the natural look whether it was accepted or not. This black history month, I want to shout out those women who rocked the natural before the phenomenon, before the vlogs, and before the faux locs. These women are the real MVPs.
Before Solange, Viola Davis, Yaya DaCosta, Leela James, Corinne Bailey Rae, Marsha Ambrosius, and Janelle Monáe there was…
1. Phyllis Yvonne Stickney
2. Amel Larrieux
3. Joie Lee
5. Suzzanne Douglass
6. Lisa Bonet
7. Whoopi Goldberg
8. Lisa Nicole Carson
9. Tempestt Bledsoe
10. Tracee Ellis Ross
11. India Arie
12. Lauryn Hill
13. Lady of Rage
14. Debbi Morgan
15. Nina Simone
|Posted by Nicole Jocleen on January 25, 2015 at 9:00 PM||comments (0)|
We all have a physical preference concerning the opposite sex. It's a good thing too. It helps out the theory that "there is somebody for everybody."
As a brown skinned African American female growing up in the 90s, I can remember feeling like I wasn't the preferred "type" or didn't have the preferred "look." I witnessed over the years how black men or boy's preference has changed. I not only witnessed it in actual life, but also through music videos and movies. Many different races and shades have been considered exotic over the years: Mixed (black and white), Creole, Blasian, Hispanic, Armenian, and West Indian. I could be wrong, but I don't think dark skin black women have ever been considered the overall preferred choice, the new trend, or exotic. At least not until now. There was a time in my life where a light skin girl stood out because there were only a couple. Now with all the mixing of the races, everybody's light skin. It has me wondering...where have all the dark skin girls gone?
When I am in the presence of a "dark skin" girl or I see one on TV, I find myself thinking "how beautiful?" I feel as though I am viewing something that I don't see often. Am I alone in this?
I'm really not trying to continue the "dark skin vs light skin" or "good or bad hair" thang, but I did want to share with you a couple of beauties that take my breath away.
My BFF Latrice Pinkins
|Posted by Nicole Jocleen on December 27, 2014 at 10:45 PM||comments (0)|
I guess it depends on the level of commitment that you desire. Do you desire the main chick role? Do you desire a monogamous relationship? Do you desire marriage? Also, consider how old you are. It’s a cuter look to wait on a guy when you are 18, 21, 25, but at some point it becomes a waste. A waste of whatever you are putting off due to this non committed relationship. For women that desire marriage they may possibly put off having kids or buying a house. For others it could be moving to a different state and pursuing a job. For most women, it’s just time. Time is that one thing that none of us can ever get back. Once your 20’s are gone, they’re gone. 30’s too. You don’t want to find yourself in the future walking through a crowded path of regret wondering how different your life would be if you had only given that guy 1 year of your life instead of 10. Think about it. Need some help, check out the video.
|Posted by Nicole Jocleen on December 26, 2014 at 1:30 PM||comments (0)|
This blog is just for the men. Ready guys, here we go. What does it mean when you call the day before Christmas, the day after Christmas, but not on Christmas? What does it mean when you like every picture posted on Christmas from Instagram, but you don’t reach out personally. What does it mean when you do reach out on Christmas, but was MIA all year? Fellas, what does it mean!!! Now I have my suspicions of what it means. Guys please know that us ladies sit around and have these conversations. So when you pull one of these stunts she is getting a second, third, and fourth opinion about it. Still, it’s nothing like hearing it from the horse’s mouth. I know guys don’t like to go into too much detail when it comes to their feelings and emotions or lack thereof. So let’s make it simple.
1. When you call or text every day but Christmas, what does it mean?
a. You want to reach out, but you don’t want her to think you are more serious about her than you really are.
b. You can’t reach out because you’re with someone else and you hoped that reaching out the other days would make up for it.
c. You are waiting to see if she will reach out.
d. You got caught up in the holiday festivities and forgot.
2. When you like all her pictures that she posted on IG on Christmas, but refuse to reach out.
a. You can’t reach out because you’re with someone else and you hoped that liking all her pictures would make up for it.
b. You want to reach out, but you don’t want her to think you are more serious about her than you really are.
c. You want her to reach out, and that’s why you liked all her pictures.
3. When you do reach out on Christmas, but was MIA all year?
a. You saw her IG post, so you decided to reach out.
b. All your friends in relationships were with their girls and you got bored.
c. You were feeling down and needed an ego booster.
You can substitute the word Christmas with any holiday. Valentine’s Day, Thanksgiving, MLK…
|Posted by Nicole Jocleen on December 18, 2014 at 11:35 PM||comments (0)|
The clip from Love and Hip Hop Hollywood and the cast included are not meant to be an example of the subject of my blog. It is only meant to act as a visual.
4:1King James Version (KJV)-And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach.
Is it me or is everyone a side chick these days? I mean does the main chick even exist? Or do guys like to keep all their women at an even playing field?
My question for the guys would be how do you determine that a woman is main chick material or side chick material? Like...what are the guidelines? Seriously!
And as a woman how do you determine your position? Hip Hop has made the main chick role sound glamorous, but if you are not the only one then you still lose.
As the main chick, how do you get rid of the side chicks? Well, you can't as long as there are women willing to be the side chick.
But here is the real issue.
Most side chicks don't know that they are side chicks. (drops mic)
There is a sure way to discover whether or not you are the main chick or the side chick. Ladies, I'm bout to give you the game. Are you ready?
"YESSS NICOLE WE ARE READY!" Shouts the ladies reading this blog.
If you are having sex with a man on a regular basis and he is not lying in your bed every night you are the SIDE CHICK! Why is that? Because men don't like to be alone.
Check out my Greenscreen Blog, "Not good for the man to be alone."
|Posted by Nicole Jocleen on December 18, 2014 at 12:30 AM||comments (0)|
Psalm 37:4 Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
Women have high hopes in relationships. Tall, dark, and, handsome. Some women want a rich man. Some just want a man with a job. Some want a man with no kids. Some prefer a man that has a great relationship with his mother. Some are looking for someone to fulfill their sexual desires. Mostly women want it all and we think we can have it all…then we grow up. As we mature and began to encounter all that life has to offer we began to wonder if having it all is even possible. Maybe we won’t get the man of our dreams! Maybe we will end up SETTLING!!!
It’s every woman’s worst nightmare, right? Ask yourself, what is settling? Or what does settling look like in your life. If a woman has aspirations to marry an NBA player and be rich and instead she marries an educator, is that settling? What if she married the NBA player, lived in the big house, but then constantly dealt with infidelity? Did she get what she wanted or just what she thought she wanted?
God will give you the desires of your heart. Just make sure that when you are making that list you remember this. Whoever you choose will be with you through life’s hardest trials. No one expects to get in a car wreck and be wheelchair bound for the rest of their life. No one expects to have to bury a child. No one expects to get diagnosed with a life threatening disease. Life is full of unexpected situations. So when you are making that list for the man of your dreams make sure you remember to list the following.
Ask yourself what you want in a man. Scratch that out and then think about what you actually need. Start the list there. What you NEED may be staring you right in the face.
|Posted by Nicole Jocleen on December 14, 2014 at 4:55 PM||comments (1)|
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
When a woman is through, done, or over a man we leave him alone. We stop accepting his calls. We meet up with our friends and have girl talk. We either stay at home and wait for the next man to fall into our lap or we go out with our friends to greater our chances of being noticed. All the while, we are single, by ourselves, UN committed, and lonely.
When they are through, done, or over a woman. They lie in her bed at night, talk to her on the phone, and send her text messages until....they find a chosen replacement. Or should I say a suitable replacement. This woman is everything the current woman is not.
The problem is...
As women we become confused. Fantasia's lyrics "if you don't want me then don't talk to me" come to mind. As women we wonder why they call us if they don't want us. Why do they lay up with us if they don't want us? Why don't they just LEAVE US ALONE? Ladies remember men are not like us. They won't choose to be alone.
So as women in the relationship, we have to figure out if we are the suitable helper or just a helper in the midst until the suitable one shows up.
Think about it. Better yet, PRAY ABOUT IT!